Guides

Practical guides for the conversations and decisions that are hard to get right. Each one ends with a way to rehearse before the real thing.

1. 1How to prepare for a difficult conversationHow to prepare for a difficult conversation: what to decide beforehand, the questions to ask, how to open, and how to handle the hard moments.
2. 2Questions to ask yourself before a big decisionFifteen questions to ask yourself before a big decision: what you're really choosing, what you might be missing, and how to test your reasoning first.
3. 3How to ask for a raiseHow to ask for a raise: what to prepare, when to ask, a script you can adapt, and what to say when you hear the budget is tight or you're at the top of the band.

Looking for a specific situation? The eight stories each come with their own guide, from job offers to a parent moving in.